Hypnosis, Coaching & Expectations

When you are confident in yourself you expect things to go your way. Remember when you had been successful at something, perhaps you got a raise or a promotion, maybe you won a trophy or an award for something. You felt confident. Knowing that you had been successful in the past gives you the confidence to be successful now.  You just know that you can do it again, because you have done it before successfully. You may have had good grades when you were in grade school, so naturally you just knew that you could continue to get good grades. You expected to get good grades and so you did. You expect to be successful.  When you expect success you get success, whether it is a wonderful relationship, a satisfying career, to be financially abundant, or to win at a sport or achieve a good grade.

Just the opposite is true also. When you are often criticized you lose confidence in yourself and your abilities. After a while you expect to fail. You make mistakes. It is almost as if you set yourself up for failure because you expect to fail or you expect to not be good enough, look good enough or have enough. Even if you were successful in the past, somewhere along the way you may have lost confidence in yourself or your abilities. You get what you expect. When you expect things to go your way most often they do. When you expect the worst you worry. Worry is planning for the negative outcomes. Expecting the worst to occur. Most often you get what you expect. It is like the Law of Attraction. You draw to you what you expect.

So what would happen if you changed your mind? What would happen if you could imagine the most positive outcome? What if you could change what you expect? What if your expectations were positive? You would probably have better results. You would feel more confident and your self-esteem would increase. What if someone could help you to be confident, to achieve you goals, live your dreams?  That’s what HypnoCoaching™ is all about.  HypnoCoaching™ is the combination of Coaching, NLP, and Hypnosis, very powerful tools that can help you to feel confident, have clear and defined goals, and change your expectations. When you are using HypnoCoaching,™ you have the added benefit of using both your conscious and subconscious mind to change your expectations and create the changes you desire.

HypnoCoaching™ helps you become confident, stop procrastinating, and expect to make positive changes in your life.  You expect more and better.  When you expect results you are more likely to get them. When you expect the worst, often that is what you get. Positive results come from positive expectations. Like the old saying, when you “change your mind, change your life.”

Goal Setting

“Unless you have a definite, precise, clear set of goals, you are not going to realize the maximum potential that lies within you.” -Zig Ziglar

When you make positive change in your life it usually involves goal setting.  Regardless of what you want, having a clear goal helps it become a reality.  Otherwise you are just counting on chance.

To set goals you should ask yourself the following questions.  Are my goals realistic? Are they attainable?  When do you expect to complete them?  Are they stated simply and clearly? What is the reward?

My work, coaching, HypnoCoaching,™ and hypnosis, almost always involves setting goals.  I use a step by step procedure developed by Dr. Richard Harte.  I see to it that my clients to make sure they have goals that can be attained, that they have a clear vision of their goals, a plan of action so that they can reach their goals, know what the reward is, and have a timeline of when the goal will be reached.

If goals are not clearly defined and planned out, they are less likely to be achieved.  If you don’t have a clear defined goal, what you have is a simply a wish.  Yes, sometimes you might get your wish, but why count on chance when you can make your dreams come true.  Once you set your goals you can act on them to get the results you desire. I remember years ago in my first management class we learned the “six p’s of success,”  ”Proper Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance.”  You must set goals, take action, and then you see results.

Fears

Halloween is right around the corner.  It is a fun time for both adults and children.  We wear costumes, go to parties, “haunted”  hayrides, tours, maizes, mansions, prisons, etc. to feel afraid.  Sort of like when someone goes to a scary movie.  It’s like we manufacture fear for a thrill. But for some people living with fear is very real, intense, and it interferes with their day to day life and even their work.  I don’t mean ghosts, paranoia, or other things,  I mean things like fear of heights, fear of failure, driving, flying, etc.

Fears are one of the most common reasons that people go to a hypnotist. The most common fears are fear of flying, fear of the dentist and fear of public speaking. Some of the other most common fears are height, dogs, elevators, driving, bridges, fear of failure (fear of success), fear of rejection (often in sales and love), fear of open spaces, fear of fear and many more.

Often people think they are alone, the only one who experiences this fear. They feel foolish. The intensity of fear varies for each individual. It can be as mild as an uneasy feeling in one person to outright panic in another. Fear can be so intense that it can literally immobilize a person. The fear often interferes with the persons life and even their work.
Sometimes when there are fears, there are several different ones. It’s like layers. Often a fear or several fears mask the real fear. For example a person is afraid of bridges, then the person releases the fear to find out that they are afraid of height. Then they get past that and find out that the underlying fear was fear of falling.

Hypnosis can enable a person to get past their fears and release them. Sometimes it may require several sessions as hypnosis is a process. Using hypnosis we find the root cause of the fear. Once we find out the cause of the fear or phobia, we can release the emotional attachment. Once there is no emotional attachment the fear is then minimized and eliminated. The person feels free and able to move forward.