February is the month when we probably think of love and romance more than usual because of Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day can be a very wonderful day (and night) full of love, romance, dinner, flowers, jewelry, candy and other tokens and gestures of love. Valentine’s Day and the days leading up to it and just after it can also be a sad and lonely if you are not in a relationship or if you are not getting along with the one you are in a relationship with.
If you are single hearing someone in a relationship discuss plans, gifts, what to wear on Valentine’s Day can make you sad and long for a relationship of your own. Co-workers having flowers delivered to the office can make you feel slightly envious. The day after Valentine’s Day can be torture too! Friends and co-workers are showing off their gifts or talking about what they wore where they went and more. Even though you hate to admit it, perhaps you feel a little envious or even a twinge of jealousy. You wonder why you don’t have a relationship. Maybe you have even experienced a break-up recently. Perhaps you got divorced and this is your first Valentine’s Day alone in many years. You feel lonely and insecure wondering if you are loveable and worthy enough to have a great relationship. You wonder what is wrong with you. Don’t I look good enough? You wonder if you are doing something wrong. Do I come across as needy or even desperate? You feel sad.
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship you may be wondering what you can do to improve your relationship. You may want to spend more time with your partner. Do you wish that your relationship was a little more romantic? Or perhaps you would like to argue less. Maybe you nag (admit it) more than you mean to? Deep inside (ok maybe not very deep at all) you would like to change something about your partner. Am I too “clingy” and pushing away my partner? Or perhaps you want to move on and don’t know how to best go about it.
Does this sound like you? You can change this. You can change how you feel. You can change how you come across to others. You can change how you communicate to others verbally and with your body language. You can attract people to you. You can take your present relationship to a new level. You can let go if you need to. HOW?
SELF-HYPNOSIS. Self-hypnosis can help you feel more secure and confident. You can build your self-esteem. When your self-esteem is stronger you come across confident, radiating self-assurance. More attractive! Let’s face it confidence is attractive. Needy and desperate usually push people away or even worse they attract the wrong type of people. Using self-hypnosis you can get over your fears, whether it is fear commitment, fear of abandonment or even fears stemming from past relationships. You can neutralize unwanted feelings such as anger, jealousy, perfectionism, and blame. Learn to be more accepting, tolerant, and understanding. You realize that you can not change other people, only yourself and your reactions to people and situations. You gain perspective with self-hypnosis. You can let go of shyness and enjoy socializing, meeting, and attracting people. With self-hypnosis you learn to make better decisions and choices about relationships and who you want to commit to. If you need to move on you can let go and “cut the cord” and move on and to a more fulfilling relationship.
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adapted from Create Your Better Life